Katlyn McGraw

Native Kentuckian. Scientist. Bi woman. Commuter Cyclist. Musician. Knitter. Lover of life.

Being bi means that I am not just attracted to one gender. Claiming my bisexuality helps me feel like my true self. Being out and proud allows me to help others understand me. I love all types of people and I am not ashamed of it!

Bis are beautiful! They are smart and complex because they deal with many barriers in multiple communities. We all just want love though!

From a young age I knew I was attracted to many genders. However, I grew up in a very conservative and sheltered household. My main outlet was reading. It was the one thing that was not controlled. Once I was nineteen years old, I discovered the term bisexuality and I thought, ‘This is me! This is who I am!’ I felt overjoyed. Yet coming out to my friends was a difficult experience. Suddenly they thought I just wanted to have sex with them. My friends’ boyfriends harassed me and thought I was trying to take away their girlfriends. I felt stifled all over again. I dated mostly men for several years. I tried so hard to meet women that wanted to date but really struggled to gain more experiences. I am now married to a man. Yet I struggle in the heteronormative box, because that is how it looks on the outside. And it doesn’t feel complete on the inside. We have recently opened our marriage and we are beginning a new journey. My path to understanding who I am and how my sexuality plays a role in my life is neverending. But I do not regret who I am. I love who I am.

The toughest thing about being bi is feeling like you don’t fit in anywhere. Now, there are way more celebrities out as bi and there are many more resources due to the internet. I am so thankful for this. I am excited about the birevolution!

Fluidity. Multiple options. Freedom to love.

Some ignore it. Some ask questions. Some support my sexuality. There is a myriad of responses I have experienced. The most important thing is to be happy with who you are regardless of others’ responses.