Faces of Bisexuality

Love women, love men, love whomever catches your interests at the moment — but love and accept yourself above all else.

I know that, at least for now, I want to continue occupying this middle space, where all of the doors — to both monogamy and non-monogamy — are open to me.

I've been asked if I'm "really" bisexual. I reply that I am and if they still doubt it I sometimes joke that they are welcome to interrogate my wife and my boyfriend about it.

Bi people are passionate beings who embrace the true pleasure found in variety.

Many of us first find the courage to explore our sexuality through drug use, but we need to be talking about the dire consequences as well as the freedom.

Mexico City Pride has given me the opportunity to proudly embrace my bisexuality and to stand tall among a community that accepts and celebrates me for who I am.

I have been officially out for years, but I'm still working to do better, be more visible, and stop bi erasure whenever I can.

The beauty in being bisexual is that we are all unique and versatile. And that is worthy of celebration.

Being a bi woman means I can wave a rainbow flag in one hand and hold my boyfriend's hand in the other, and how is that not something to be proud of?

I always wanted to have brothers, and I wanted the camaraderie of hanging out with other guys. That's what Scouting provided for me.

It wasn’t until I began interacting with the bi community that I finally started coming into my own as a bi man.

As wonderful as it was to at last be living as an openly bi man, I learned that being closeted for so long had shielded me from a lot of biphobia.

With the strength, stamina, and sweat of five thousand used car salesmen, I began running laps around the Bi Brigade's contingent, distributing hugs and high-fiving the crowd.

Hopefully, at some point, I can truly feel like the sexy, black, bi, demi woman that I am.

So let's say that you've found that special someone (or more than one). How do you spend quality time with them when you’re not supposed to meet in person?

I think it’s important not just to be comfortable with who you are, but also confident. More than just acknowledging a truth about yourself, having some pride really makes a difference.

It's not unusual for LGBT people to decide to come out to their families during the holidays. Everyone will be there and you can hit ten or so birds with one leap.

This is my story of coming out: first as "queer" and then, later, finally accepting my bisexuality.

It is hard, even today, to make myself vulnerable to some people. I grew up thinking that it is not okay to express emotions — at least not in a healthy way.

For a bisexual woman maintaining your bi identity while married to a man can have extra challenges.

Conocer a personas que expresaban su género y sexualidad de maneras que nunca había imaginado fue revelador, y me di cuenta de que había más formas de existir fuera del binario.

I'm still bisexual no matter who I am dating and no matter how I act. Proud to be bisexual. Proud to be me.

It was such a relief to know that I could keep my bi identity (which had become very important to me) and also acknowledge this other facet of myself.

And I'm out to be seen, to make sure I keep getting seen and heard, no matter how much the world wants to dismiss me or shove me back in the closet.

Maybe my sense of myself will shift later on, and I’ll need new labels. That’s okay. Nothing is set in stone — I don’t have to lie anymore. And that’s incredibly freeing.

In the end, life is not a zero-sum game, and as a bi woman, I’m happy to say neither is love.

Yes, I am in a committed relationship with a woman, and yes, she is the love of my life. But that doesn't mean I'm straight. It means I am attracted to men and women.

The more out bi people there are and the more we can connect with one another, the less alone we all feel and the more acceptance we will gain.