Beauzie Kincaid

I am a professional musician. Music has always been a big part of my life. I am married to my best friend who has always been my biggest supporter. I am liberal and a very involved and vocal activist. I am also a very active person, a surfer, skater, BMX biker, and diver, among other things. I love life and enjoy it to the fullest.

Bisexuality simply means that one was born with romantic and or sexual attractions to both sexes.

Bisexuals, like homosexuals and heterosexuals, are born the way we are. We cannot change and have no desire to.

My 1st crush happened at age 11. It was on the cutest tomboy with gorgeous long hair. We met at summer camp. When I quickly discovered it was not a tomboy but a boy, it did not affect my crush at all. I think I first became aware of my bisexuality then. I would go on to have many other crushes on both girls and boys and eventually date and have relationships of various degrees from casual to full, live together as partners, with both sexes. I have my likes and am picky but other than that, the sex of the person was never a concern with me. All that was important was if I were attracted to them?

All the stereotypes and the fact that we catch negativity from both sides of the fence. And OMG, the “You are possessed of demonic spirits & jesus & prayer can redeem you from your wicked, deviant, lifestyle” lot are just so angry and hateful.

The fact that your experiences come from the both sides of sexuality gives one, I think, a broader, richer, experience.

Some have been “So what” about it. Sadly there have been some, including close friends and even family who have written me out of their lives simply because I feel and love differently than they do.