Kim Gilster

I would say that I am a very diverse individual. Perhaps that is why I am bisexual? There is beauty everywhere I don’t feel as though I want to allow this beauty and love to escape me. Let’s see. My educational background is in anthropology. I was studying to become an archaeologist but the economy tanked so it was not meant to be. Though I still have and have always had a great passion for the study of human behavioral science in all its facets. For that matter, I have a passion for all things science. I practice visual arts (painting and photography). Though I have fallen behind recently; they are still an integral part of who I am. Which is why I bothered to earn a degree in art history. I love to write and have recently started to write a new book. I will tell you what it is about when I am finished. I currently reside in San Pedro, CA. Am employed at EQCA as one of their top fundraisers. Sexually I am a dominant (yes, I left this near the bottom on purpose). Why? I don’t want my sexuality to define me.

This is a huge question. As I said in my about me section, I don’t want to miss out on anything life has to offer. I suppose to don’t like the word “sexual” in there. Labels are always such a problem. I mostly tell people that I am queer when they ask because I find that it opens things up for discussion. Am I attracted to women? yes! Am I attracted to men? yes! Am I attracted to those that express some non-binary expression of gender? yes!! I don’t like boxes. So I guess you could say that being bisexual means that I am not limited by societal norms as to who and how I choose to love.

We are not untrustworthy. As a matter of fact, most of the bisexuals I know are some of the most open, honest people I have ever met. We simply want to live our lives like everyone else. With the freedom to love who we choose to love. We are not freaks or confused. Most of us have had a hard time accepting who and what we are. I am still in that process. That means that we have done a lot of soul searching. This leads to a person that is likely to be even more honest and upfront than most.

It has been a very long path. I didn’t want to be who I am. I wanted to hide in heterosexual norms. Fortunately; I had others come into my life to show me the way. People I fell for because they were incredible individuals. They caused me to question who I am and embrace myself. I will always be grateful for them.

I think it is dating. There is this assumption of dishonesty or there is an assumption from straight men that I am going to sleep with women for their entertainment. That who I am is about sex. Trying to explain who I am to others where they understand is a huge hurtle.

Having a larger pool of people to love.

It has varied widely.