John Minehart

I am a long time married male in the DFW area of Texas. Married over fifty years, identified as bi for 35, wife has known and encouraged all along. She is open-minded but identifies herself as straight. We are both professional college level educators who enjoy travel, the outdoors, golf, kayaking, SCUBA, movies, reading, entertaining, etc. We are also closely involved with our children and grand children. In other words, pretty much a typical older couple, except… rn

I consider bisexuality as normal for me. I am attracted to women and live a heterosexual life style, but enjoy sex equally with a female or male partner. I enjoy meeting other guys where sex is an open option. In addition my wife and I enjoy meeting a guy where sex for the three of us together is likely. I have a few male friends I enjoy sexually and we have 4 guys we see together, all for many years (one for 35). In many ways being bi is the best of both worlds because my wife and I can be completely open with each other about our sexual identities. rnOn the other hand, bisexuality is not generally accepted as an orientation so we are not out to anybody, gay or straight, that we have not been with sexually.

We are just normal people. Normal includes a lot of different orientations.

Straight as a teenager and through twenties, fantasy through most of my thirties, realization in my forties, and activity since. Started wondering whether my hand or penis was enjoying masturbation the most. Then began wondering why my penis should taste good to my wife but not me. Finally, with my wife as instigator, we had sex with a long time friend, first straight, then he and I. Worried about being gay but quickly realized that my desire for my wife was not diminished but there was a very enjoyable new dimension added. I still see him with regularity 35 years later and occasionally in a threesome with my wife. He is married and his wife does not know.

Not being fully open with family and non-bi friends. Not that tough

We love sex and being bi opens more opportunities. As I age my sexual energy and stamina are not what the used to be. Having another guy with my wife and I allows more satisfaction for her and he and I can have all we can handle.

Not really out.