Jasmine Aguilar

Hi! My name is Jasmine and I’m from LA. :)rnI’m a student at USC film school, studying Interactive Media and Game Design, and Gender Studies. I also head the Women’s Student Assembly at USC, which is an organization that aims to start conversation and raise visibility on issues surrounding gender. rnI love to play video games when I’m not making them in my classes. My favorites are definitely Donkey Kong Country on the SNES, The Sims, Bayonetta, and Left 4 Dead. 🙂 I also have worked on a few games while at USC. rnI also love yoga, adventuring out in LA, shopping, and singing very loud in the shower. rnI have an amazing partner that means the world to me. She has been with me for a lot of my journey to accepting my bisexuality and even coming out to my parents. We also might own a small kitten together named Luna. Luna also means the world to me, especially with her being my first pet I ever had. 🙂

Being bisexual to me means a kind of freedom. I always felt like I was attracted to not just men or not just women or any other one gender. I could really see myself being with a person if I really felt a chemistry with them and it didn’t really matter to me the gender. I also was way too attracted by Lady Gaga to ever be considered straight.

It’s really really simple: I want the world to know we exist. I would like the world to know that we are just because I identify as bisexual automatically means I have a higher chance of infidelity or whatever. I want them to know bisexuals have their own struggles of coming out and coming to terms with our identities and it doesn’t mean it was any easier because I am bisexual. rnI would like them to know that I am apart of the queer community and I know what the struggle feels like.

The path to my sexuality was definitely a difficult one – lol. I was in middle school when I first thought I might be some sort of queer and when I pinpointed it to being bisexual, I came out to my best friend at the time. She told me it was a phase and it was gross and that I needed to not ever mention it again. After that, I didn’t really think about it until my senior year of high school when I told my boyfriend at the time I was bisexual. He completely sexualized it and would keep trying to pressuring me into threesomes, which I definitely wasn’t comfortable with at the time. rnI started exploring at college my freshman year and started dating and I met my current amazing partner at a party. We started dating and have been inseparable ever since. She was there when I came out to my parents and my family. And here I am… a completely out bisexual woman.

The toughest thing about being bisexual… well before my partner, was getting dates. Most of the queer women around me I had tried to hit on in clubs and around classes were grossed out by the fact I was bisexual and the men I dated thought it was super sexy and tended to be really gross about it so they dismissed my struggles as a queer woman. rnSo that and also the whole coming out thing. That was rough.

OH the best thing is that once I came to terms with my bisexuality and started to explore into it, I finally started figuring out what I liked sexually. I learned a lot about myself and now know exactly feels good and what doesn’t. rnAlso finally feeling like I am being who I am feels amazing.

My friends have all been really supportive and just awesome. They didn’t mind when I talk to them about my adventures in my bisexuality and even tried to hook me up with a few friends. 😉 They also listen to the really tough things, like coming out especially, and understood my struggle without dismissing it. They’re all amazing. Same with my one younger brother. rnMy parents were upset (of course, coming from a Latin@ family) and while they know, they like to pretend it doesn’t exist. Baby steps though. They’re coming around little by little.