frequently asked questions

who are you, really?

as i said on the front page, i'm a 25 year old carbon based life form. i'm bisexual. i'm married. i'm american. i work in computers. that's all you really need to know.

why all the mystery? are you ashamed of your lifestyle?

i'm not ashamed of anything in my life, but i am a private person. i'm also in the military (national guard), and i don't need to get kicked out because some twit i work with found this place and turned me in for being "gay".

[insert stupid question about being bi here]

yes, i'm bisexual. yes, i'm sure it's not "just a phase." yes, i'm married. yes, my husband knows. no, we don't have threesomes. no, i don't have a girlfriend (it's called "adultery," children). no, my husband doesn't want to watch, ferchrissakes. yes, we check out women together. yes, we have pretty much the same taste in women. no, he's straight. no, he doesn't mind that i'm queer. no, you may NOT ask for a threesome or any other deviant activity with me OR my husband, you little pervert.

here, let me give you some Scriptures about how being gay is going to result in you burning forever...

don't bother. i don't answer hate mail, flame mail, or weirdos telling me i'm going to hell. i happen to be a Christian, believe it or not, and God loves me the way i am. abusive e-mail will be reported to your ISP. do not mess with a computer professional and expect nothing to happen.

where's your xena stuff?

see the front page, or go here. i enjoy writing xena fan fiction when i have the time, which isn't often, but i do try.

where are you?

i can't imagine why anyone would be interested in this, but hey, some people are. i'm from the south, but i'm living out west right now. the scene is slightly better out here than where i'm from. :) i love the south despite its many flaws, though; it's home. we may head back down there in a couple of years.

are you out?

only to certain people, mostly close friends. my sister knows, but my brother and parents don't. right now, they just don't need to know. coming out is a strange, scary thing, and should be a personal decision that you make when the time is right for you.

i can't think of anything else right now. more later.

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