Eleanor Kramer

Im a 24 y/o female who has been married to a man for 4 yrs now. I have known my orientation since I was 12 and dated girls first. My husband knows my sexual orientation but does not understand how being bisexual and married works. Quite frankly neither do I. I am a veteran of of U.S. military and proud of it. I just earned my Associate’s Degree in Veterinary Technology. I was born and raised in Queens, NY and moved to San Diego with the military 6 yrs ago, Now I am onto FL again with the military.

Being bisexual to me means having the ability to fall in love with any person regardless of gender. It’s not just about sex, even though that helps, but love transcends all and I know I can love anyone regardless of their gender.

that it’s not greediness or confusion.

I knew when I knew. First and second girlfriends where kind of exploration and the third one was the one. But for my parents sake I took a straighter path. The only people in my life that know are my closest friends,brother and husband.

I got married to a man at 20. People see a ring and a husband and assume I’m nothing but straight. I’m not trying to put my sexual orientation forward but year after year it starts to wear on you. I started speaking up to my hubby about it recently and he is way more confused than I am. He thinks that because I am bisexual it’s cheating either way. IS IT? we’ve gone through so much already I don’t want to add another obstacle of my own making.

All of the love. Men and women if they find out in passing and they have the same orientation we become kindred spirits and it’s nice. Also I have never felt any pressure from neither bisexual men or women. Its always the straight guy that’s a dog. (no offense) In my experience Bi people just want to share the love even if it is just friendship.

The first person I told , my best friend, said “Yeah, I know, I was just waiting for you to say it.” Weird because I hadn’t even known until I told her, I tell her everything. Other friends whom I’ve told “came out” so to speak after I told them so that was always a good reception. My brother didn’t care, because I was already married by the time I said anything. Last but not least, I have not told my parents. And I never will. My mom is ridiculously religious and might get sick if I did. She got sick the day I told her I was deploying to Bahrain so I will never do that again. My dad is on his death bed so, not going there either. Even though I think my dad knows and doesn’t care. He’s a hippie from the 60’s, and raised me like a little boy so I think he kind of expected it.